Strengthening the Relationship with Your Partner

Maintaining a healthy loving relationship with a life partner is a challenge in the best of circumstances. External challenges such as a child with special needs, illness, extended unemployment often make it harder, not easier, for the partners to support each other. Below are some resources to help you make your relationship a source of strength and not another stressor.

John Gottman’s Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is based on many years of empirical research on successful and unsuccess marriages. You can read more about Gottman and his work and take a quiz at The Gottman Relationship Institute

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny. You can read a review of the book in the February 2007 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine 

Gary Chapman has identified five "languages of love", our primary way of expressing and interpreting love. Since partners often prefer different love languages, learning to recognize a loving gesture offered in a different language and to show love to your partner in a way that will recognized. Learn more about the five languages and take a quiz to help identify your own style. 

For a more extensive list of books for couples, check out my book list on Amazon.

Other Adult Relationships

Even if you have a wonderful marriage and especially if you don't, you need to have other adults in your life to offer support, caring and friendship. (more on this topic to come)